Are you a Cycle Breaker?

Do you identify as a “cycle breaker”? — someone committed to disrupting generational patterns or cycles in areas like relationships, behavior, mindset, or even family dynamics.

This quiz can provide insight into your level of awareness, willingness to address challenging patterns, and commitment to self-growth.

🌿 Instructions: Choose the option that best reflects your current reality. Tally your points at the end to see your Cycle Breaker type.

1. How aware are you of the generational patterns in your family?

• A) I’ve deeply explored them and understand their impact on me. (3 points)

• B) I’m beginning to notice them and make connections. (2 points)

• C) I’m not sure what the patterns are or how they show up in my life. (1 point)

2. When painful or toxic behaviors arise in your life, how do you respond?

• A) I get curious, reflect, and try to trace the root. (3 points)

• B) I notice them but don’t always know what to do. (2 points)

• C) I try to move past them quickly without much thought. (1 point)

3. How do you handle emotions—yours or others'?

• A) I allow space for emotions and teach others (or my children) emotional literacy. (3 points)

• B) I’m working on getting more comfortable with emotions. (2 points)

• C) I often suppress or dismiss emotions. (1 point)

4. Do you feel responsible for changing things for future generations?

• A) Yes, I feel a deep calling to create a healthier legacy. (3 points)

• B) I think about it sometimes but feel unsure how. (2 points)

• C) I don’t think it’s really my responsibility. (1 point)

5. How comfortable are you with setting and holding boundaries, especially with family?

• A) I set boundaries confidently and with compassion. (3 points)

• B) I try, but I often feel guilty or conflicted. (2 points)

• C) I avoid setting boundaries because it causes too much tension. (1 point)

6. What’s your relationship with self-worth and identity?

• A) I’ve done deep work to reclaim who I am beyond my upbringing. (3 points)

• B) I’m still figuring out who I am apart from what I was taught. (2 points)

• C) I don’t think about it much or feel like I have to accept what I was given. (1 point)

7. Have you sought healing support (e.g., therapy, coaching, spiritual tools, inner child work)?

• A) Yes, I actively engage in healing work. (3 points)

• B) I’ve tried or am open to it, but not consistently. (2 points)

• C) No, I haven’t really explored healing resources. (1 point)

8. When you experience conflict with others, especially loved ones, how do you typically respond?

• A) I aim to communicate clearly and break reactive patterns. (3 points)

• B) I sometimes fall into old habits but try to be aware. (2 points)

• C) I usually shut down, lash out, or repeat what I saw growing up. (1 point)

9. How often do you reflect on what you want to unlearn from your upbringing?

• A) Regularly—I journal, process, or discuss this often. (3 points)

• B) Occasionally—I have some awareness. (2 points)

• C) Rarely—I mostly just keep going. (1 point)

10. If you’re a parent or caregiver, how intentional are you about parenting differently?

(If not a parent, think of how you mentor or influence younger people.)

• A) Very intentional—I research, reflect, and consciously lead. (3 points)

• B) I want to, but it feels overwhelming or unclear. (2 points)

• C) I haven’t really thought about it in this way. (1 point)